Home | Fort-De-France, Martinique
Out of all the places in the Caribbean that I have had the opportunity to visit this Fall and Winter—Fort-de-France has garnered a special place in my heart.
I made a friend here: Stephanie.
Many years ago, I wrote a song called “Home.” The general idea of the lyrics, is that home is not a location or a place on the map: it’s people—the friends we make along the way, on our unique journey, living.
I try my best to make friends everywhere I go. For one reason or another, I am never able to reach this ridiculous goal I used to set for myself: to be friends with everyone I meet. It’s a high bar—and as hard as I may try—or given oversteps, mistakes, personal-growth or lack thereof, and whatever else I can’t conjure in the current moment… I come up too short on the amusement park ride that is ‘being friends with everyone.’
My older brother once told me, years before social media ever existed, that we don’t make tremendous amounts of close friends in life. More often than not, we make acquaintances. He felt that it’s closer to the truth, that we can count the amount of close friends we have, on our hands.
He may be right. He could be wrong. I don’t know.
I do know that I very much enjoy being well-liked by people, but inevitably: I will find someone who loathes me, or who is ambivalent of me, or just has no interest in me in any capacity whatsoever: and that is okay!
I used to find sadness in this observation, but I don’t think I do anymore. I am trying to focus this notion in an opposite light—to focus on the people that I meet and love and like and cherish and learn from and can confide in and who have no ill-will towards myself or anyone else for that matter.
I find home in these people. I find home in the warm smile of a shop owner, who offers me coffee and a hug whenever I am in town, and who has the most wonderful conversations with me about life and science and spirituality and travels and stories and ancient civilizations and whatever else.
She has lived in France and in India, and considers herself Hindu, yet is not concerned with the how and why of the spirituality another may regard for themselves. She instead tries to find common ground with everyone she meets through her own personal experience. I admire this quality in people.
She could just be an acquaintance, but I am happy to consider her a friend. I’m happy to consider you a friend too. Perhaps my brother is correct: a close friend takes time and experience—but we have a lifetime to earn that with each other, so long as we stay opine to the idea of finding home in each other here on Earth. Please forgive me if I take liberties in doing so. Forgive me also if I have wronged you in some way. I don’t go out of my way to hurt anyone, I can assure you of that.
I’m not a fortress. I’m not an island.
I am human though, and I have found regret, and felt like a defending agent along a minaret, when in fact it should have been a place to call for prayer, as they were originally intended. I have also fought over a piece of something, or just simply peace, at some point, like the English and the French did here—defending or attacking, and whatever inbetween.
Regardless, I’m exhausted of the idea of fighting. I’d rather be like water, and I try to learn from such a fluid substance of life—as much as I can manage to glean.
Be like water. Be a friend. Be honest. Be humble. Be kind. Be grateful. Be home to me and be home to you.
WHO IS MIKE VITALE?
I am a storyteller, songwriter, singer, music producer, traveling musician, Jungian dream analyst, all-around curious fellow (Spiritual, Mathematical Historical, Scientific), Taoist, and much much more, based out of Los Angeles, California. I’m constantly releasing new music, in all sorts of different genres. You can listen to me below, on Spotify:
